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Who are you?

A friend in Program says:

We Program people don't tend to think much about the Traditions of our respective 12-Step fellowships, but there is one that most of us know because we hear it occasionally at the end of meetings: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

We hear a great deal about anonymity when we first come into Program. We're told that it is important never to mention the identity of other people we see in meetings once we leave the room, or that we can be careless with our own anonymity as long as we are careful with other people's. Anonymity makes it possible for the newcomer to join Program with a reasonable prospect that her name will not be mentioned by her new friends in the fellowship.

But anonymity really comes into its own in the last three Steps. It's there that we begin to discover that we never were any sort of big shot, either outside Program or within it. It's through our practice of Steps 10, 11 and 12 that we come at last to experience that we are nobody special, that we are in every sense of the word completely ordinary -- just another little bit of the Universe -- and that our attempts to see ourselves as some sort of "personality" within Program or without are simply the last struggle of our vastly inflated egos to avoid any real spiritual progress.

Anonymity permits us something else, too. It means that -- as we come seriously to grips with these Steps -- we are free to be whatever and whoever it is that God intends for us to be. This is something that is virtually impossible for "famous" people -- for example, whoever wanted Johnny Carson or Bob Hope to be anything other than Johnny Carson or Bob Hope? By the grace of God, we don't have that problem. As we work diligently at Steps 10, 11 and 12, we won't hear any adoring audience begging us to stay just who we are. Instead, we will through our prayers and meditations hear the voice of God as we understand God guiding us to be what we were really intended to be.

"The spiritual life is never one of achievement:
it is always one of letting go."

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